Sex Term Glossary
Many people looking into booking an escort for the first time find themselves completely perplexed by the amount of adult-industry specific language being used.
This is made all the more confusing as a lot of the jargon crosses over with other terms and can mean the exact same thing. Here is a quick reference guide on some of the key terms used in the adult industry to describe different sex acts.
Please note: some of the services/terms listed are high risk due to the nature of the service (i.e. unprotected or dangerous), for the health and safety of our patrons and ladies, we do not offer any unprotected or dangerous services.
We have included them in our Dictionary however for the benefit of our readers and entrust them to make educated decisions.
Affectionate cuddling
Spooning & holding each other.
Affectionate kissing
Light kissing on face/lips, may not include kissing with tongue (see Passionate Kissing).
AFtercare
Term generally relating to the BDSM practice of debriefing and affirmations post sexual activities.
Anal/anal sex
Sexual penetration of the anus.
Analingus
Oral sex on the anus
(see also: rimming)
Anal play
Can mean a variety of things relating to “butt stuff” – examples could include rimming and anal fingering.
Asphyxiophilia
Sexual fetish for suffocation/choking
ATM
Ass To Mouth
Anal penetration followed immediately by oral
Auto-erotic asphyxiation
The highly-risky act of deriving pleasure from self-asphyxiation (any form of strangulation is considered high risk).
ball busting
Inflicting pain (usually kicking/punching) of testicles for sexual gratification
Bareback
Risky sex without condom.
BBBJ
Bare-Back Blow Job
Fellatio without condom.
BBC
Big Black Cock
bBW
Big Beautiful Woman.
bdsm
Bondage & Discipline / Dominance & Submission / Sadism & Masochism
B&D
Bondage and Discipline
Bi-double
Booking two ladies for a threesome which includes play between the two ladies as opposed to a straight-double in which both ladies are focused on the male specifically.
Bisexual
Someone who has sexual inclinations towards both the same gender and the opposite gender.
BJ
Blow Job
(Fellatio/Oral Sex)
bls
Ball Licking and Sucking
Breathplay
A sub-section of BDSM that relates to restricting breathing for sexual gratification – highly risky without proper knowledge or training.
Brown shower
Defecation on a sexual partner.
Bs
Body Slide
Sensual massage technique involving provider sliding naked body over client.
bondage
Consensually tying up or restraining a sexual partner with either cuffs, ropes or other restraints.
bukkake
Genre of porn / act involving a group of men ejaculating on an individual
buTt Plug
Form of anal sex toy.
caning
Whipping someone with a cane
cat o’ nine tails
Multi-tailed whip
cbj
Covered Blow Job
(Fellatio with condom)
cbt
Cock and Ball Torture
CD
See Cross Dressing
cim
Cum In Mouth
(Ejaculation in mouth)
CIMWS
Cum In Mouth With Swallow
cob
Cum On Breasts
cockring
Sex toy/enhancement tool that restricts and traps bloodflow within the penis to help prolong and strengthen erections
cof
Cum On Face
cosplay/Costumes
Costume-Play.
Not necessarily sexual in nature but can be incorporated into sexual play (see also: Role Play)
cowgirl
Sex-position where a woman is on top and facing her partner while being penetrated.
creampie
Ejaculating internally (specifically either vaginally or anally)
crossdressing
Wearing clothing traditionally associated with the opposite gender.
cuckolding
Watching/experiencing your partner have sexual intercourse with someone else.
cunnilingus
The technical term for providing oral sex to a female.
dam/dental dam
A piece of latex/rubber that provides a barrier for vaginal or anal oral.
daty
Dining At The Y
(Cunnilingus – Oral sex on her)
dDP
Double Digit Penetration
(Two finger penetration)
deep throating
When a penis or toy is pushed deep within a partner’s throat during fellatio.
devil’s threesome
Term for a threesome involving two men and one female.
DFK
Deep French Kissing
(See also: Passionate Kissing)
dinner companion/dinner date
Social escort that involves non-sexual services during a meal (conversation and companionship) which may be booked in addition to full service.
dirty talk
Talking to your sexual partner in an explicit way during or before intercourse to increase sexual arousal (can include describing additional sex acts –
also see: Role Play)
docking
Using the foreskin of an uncircumcised penis to encapsulate by rolling it forward.
Doggy-style
Sex position where the female is bent over and the male penetrates vaginally from behind.
Dominatrix
Female dominant for sexual fetish play
Douche
Flushing out vagina or anus using water or a solution as a means of cleaning out
DP
Double Penetration
DT
Deep Throating
Edging
The process of refraining stimulation when close to climax with the ultimate goal of achieving a stronger climax.
Electrode play
More advanced form of fetish play involving the use of electrode toys that deliver stimulation through electricity.
Erogenous zone
Location on the body that is sensitive to sexual stimulation and creates sexual arousal.
Erotic massage
Relaxation massage which has a focus on arousal.
See: Sensual Massage
escort
In the context of services listed, “Escort” relates specifically to outcalls (where services are provided at the client’s own hotel room/home).
exhibitionism
Fetish for sexual experiences in public or with a crowd/watchers.
Face Fucking
An aggressive, dominant form of Deep Throat, where a penis (or strap on) is forcefully thrust within the partners mouth/throat.
Face sitting
The practice where a male or female places their genitals (“sits”) over their sexual partner’s mouth for the purpose of oral pleasure.
Facial
Ejaculating onto a partner’s face.
Fellatio
The proper term for oral sex perfomed on a penis (see: Blow Job)
Felching
Ejaculate/Semen being sucked out of an orifice.
FeMALE EJACULATION
Ejecting of fluids by a female through sexual stimulation (See: Squirting)
FeTISH
Fetish can relate to anything of a sexual nature or that causes arousal and is has a certain degree of specificity.
FINGERING
Digital penetration and stimulation (using fingers)
FIRE AND ICE
Alternating between hot and cold oral stimulation. (e.g. using a warm beverage and ice cubes to vary the temperature of your mouth during fellatio)
fISTING
Sexual penetration of an orifice using an entire hand.
fk
French Kissing
foot fetish
Sexual arousal and interest in feet. May have an inclination and sexual fetish towards touching, licking, sucking feet.
foot JOB
Similar to a hand job except with the use of feet to provide stimulation. Requires both feet to provide adequate grip and stimulation.
foreplay
The acts immediately preceeding sexual intercourse
fULL sERVICE
Simply put, the term means sex is involved in the service. As opposed to massage service, etc.
Gagging
Choking on a partner’s penis during fellatio or Deep Throating.
GaNG BANG
An orgy that traditionally involves multiple men have sexual intercourse and perform various sex acts with one female participant.
GFE
Girl Friend Experience
Girlfriend experience
A sexual service that is more affectionate and intimate in nature – as opposed to a more explicitly sexual experience PSE/Porn Star Experience.
GLory Hole
Hole in a wall or door (generally within a bathroom) for the purpose of anonymous oral sex (fellatio)
Greek/Greek sex
Anal Sex
Group sex
Sexual activities involving multiple parties (See: Orgies)
Golden shower
Urinating on a partner for sexual gratification (See Also: Water Sports)
HaNd JOb
Using hands to manually bring a partner to climax.
Happy Ending
Massage that ends with a handjob and possible climax.
Hand relief
Another word for a hand job.
Head/Head Job
Oral sex
Hj
Hand Job
Humiliation
A sub-section of BDSM relating to the sexual arousal/gratification of a submissive through being degraded or embarassed by a dominant partner.
Italian
Sexual stimulation of rubbing penis between the buttocks of a partner without penetration. Similar to “Spanish” or “Titty Fucking”, the stimulation is created by the friction between the two.
Jizz
Ejaculate, generally meaning semen. Or the process of ejaculating.
kink
Broad term relating to unconventional sexual preferences and acts. Anything non-traditional or “Vanilla”.
Lesbian double
Similar to Bi-Double, specifically relates to ladies that will perform sex acts on each other.
Masturbation
The process of touching and stimulating one’s own genitals for the purpose of sexual arousal and/or climax.
Masochism
Deriving pleasure from pain, humiliation or submission from a dominant partner.
Menage a trois
French term meaning a threesome.
Milf
Mother I‘d Love (to) Fuck
Woman of a certain age (generally 30’s-40’s) with perceived sexual experience and appeal.
Missionary/missionary position
The most common sex position where the male is on top of and facing the female participant.
MFF
Male-Female-Female
Another variation of a threesome.
MMF
Male-Male-Female
A variation of a threesome where both the male and female are interacting with one of the males.
Motorboating
Placing one’s face between a womans breasts and moving your head side to side between them.
MFM
Male-Female-Male
A variation of a threesome where both males are interacting with the female participant (See also: Devil’s Threesome)
MSOG
Multiple Shots On Goal
(Multiple ejaculations/orgasms permitted within booking)
Mutual masturbation
Both sexual partners pleasuring themselves within the company of the other partner
Natural oral
Oral without protection.
NSA
No Strings Attached
A sexual partnership with no expectations of commitment or additional communication.
Orgasm
Height of sexual arousal and pleasure. Climax.
Orgy
Group sex with multiple participants interacting together.
Paddling
Similar to Caning, being whipped or spanked using paddles.
PAssionate Kissing
Deep, french kissing. Using tongues during kissing.
Pearl necklace
Ejaculating semen onto a partners neck, creating the appearance of a “pearl necklace”.
Penis pump
Sexual enhancement device designed to suction air around the penis with the direct intention to draw blood to the member, enhancing erection.
Pegging
Anal sex/penetration using a strap-on.
Perineum
The space between a person’s genitals and anus.
pink sock
Inverted colon that is visible outside of the anus which occurs occasionally when pulling out too quickly during anal.
piss play
A.K.A. Watersports
Sexual activities involving urine.
polyamory
Having multiple romantic partners.
pornstar Experience
Girl-Friend Experience’s raunchier cousin. Service is more akin to what you would see in your favourite pornographic movies, hence the name. Can include services like gagging, choking, face fucking, etc.
prophylactic
A device or item that prevents the transmission of disease, includes: condoms, dental dams, etc.
pSE
Porn Star Experience
pUll out method
The most unreliable form of contraception which does not provide any protection form STIs
Queef
The expulsion of air out of a vagina usually during penetrative sex or immediately after. Erroneously referred to sometimes as a vaginal or fanny fart.
Quickie
A short sexual encounter that’s generally rushed and excludes much (if any) foreplay.
Reverse cowgirl
Similar to cowgirl position, with the difference of the woman facing away from her partner.
Rimming
Using your tongue to stimulate another person’s anal ring. Analingus.
Sadism
Experiencing pleasure or sexual arousal by administering pain.
Sadomasochism
A broad term relating to experiencing pleasure from giving and receiving physical or psychological pain.
Safeword
A word or phrase when uttered ends play in fetishistic activity.
SHower for 2
Sensual experience in the shower, including body touching and play.
Sixty-Nine (69)
A sex position that allows both partners to provide mutual oral pleasure simultaneously.
Snowballing
Transferring ejaculate from one mouth to another.
Social escort
A non-sexual escort experience, generally involves dinner or some function or event. May include sensual or intimate moments and conversation but diverges from a normal full service.
Sounding
Inserting items into a urethra for sexual pleasure.
Spanish
(A.K.A. “Titty Fucking”). Placing a man’s penis between a woman’s breasts and thrusting it up and down creating friction for sexual pleasure.
SPANKING
Hitting with an open palm (generally on the buttocks) for the purpose of sexual gratification or enhanced sexual pleasure.
SPit roast
A position during a threesome involving penetrative acts from both ends (oral and either vaginal or anal) giving the appearance of a “spit roast”.
SPloshing
A fetish within food play that generally involves soft foods and liquids being poured onto a sexual partner for sexual gratification.
Squirting
Female ejaculation (i.e. “squirting” fluid during climax)
Starfish
A non-enthusiatic/lazy participant during sex. One that lies on the bed with the expectation the sexual partner will do all the work.
Strap on sex
See: Pegging.
StriP Tease
Slow undressing and gyrating for the purpose of sexual arousal and entertainment of an audience or partner.
tag team
When 2 or more people have sexual intercourse with the same person one after another in a series of sexual experiences as opposed to simultaneously (like with threesomes and gangbangs).
Tea bagging
Similar to face-sitting however tea bagging specifically relates to placing one’s testicles within the mouth of a partner.
Teasing
Lighter, less dominant version of orgasm denial, more within the realms of traditional foreplay.
Threesome
Put simply, three people having sex with each other simultaneously.
Titty fuck
Sliding a penis between the breasts of the partner to gain sexual gratification.
(See: Spanish)
Toys
Within the adult industry context, this relates to sex toys. Devices with the intention of creating arousal, climax or enhancement of sexual experiences and sensations.
Tromboning
Providing a rimjob while simultanously giving a handjob to a sexual partner.
Urethral Play
A.K.A “Sounding”.
The practice of inserting objects within a urethra for sexual gratification.
vacuum Beds
Sex toy/device used in BDSM for a variety of fetishes including but not limited to: latex fetish, bondage play, breath play, etc. Essentially it’s sheets of latex that are vacuum sealed with you in between.
voyeur/voyeurism
A fetish relating to watching/spying on other people’s sexual play.
Watersports
Incorporating urination into sexual play.
See: Golden Showers, Piss Play, Etc.
Waxplay
Sexual play using hot candle wax.
Please note: traditional candles can burn at temperatures too high to be safely poured onto a body without causing injury. Candles specifically designed for wax play are available through sex shops.
There are extensive words used related to sex and even more once you start getting specialised (in particular within the BDSM realm), this is just a very basic glossary to help people navigate.
We may do a BDSM post soon enough if there’s enough interest from our readers.
More terms and information available at the NSW Government website Playsafe.